PAINFUL YET NECESSARY

“And continue to walk surrendered to the extravagant love of Christ, for he surrendered his life as a sacrifice for us. His great love for us was pleasing to God, like an aroma of adoration—a sweet healing fragrance.” Ephesians 5:2 (TPT)


Last night I laid in bed with my husband and rested my head right between his chest and shoulder. I began to cry. I felt my tears roll down my cheek onto his skin and cried even more. (Also, thanks to babygirl for fueling my emotions…) 

It was my last night to lay with him before he left this morning on a 3 week long work trip. (At least he gets to visit Canada, eh?) But heres the thing, marriage is full of sacrifice. It is full of dying to self, choosing your battles, giving up, selflessness and more sacrifice.

This is us choosing to sacrifce time together to better our family. But wait, how can bettering your family make you cry?? Why does it have to be painful in order to give your family the best? Well, did Jesus not cry when He chose to sacrifice Himself for all of mankind? Was He not in pain as He hung on the cross to save the whole world?? I expect nothing less when choosing to make a sacrifce for my family.

Chance and I both know the sacrifces that come with him travelling for work. And we are content with those sacrifices. Because we both know that him going out of town means I get to stay home with our boys. It means that we are able to afford our own place, pay our bills, send the boys to daycare and be able to still do fun outsi gs with the boys when he is home. It means that we are able to not only bless our family but bless others as well.

Having a spouse that is called to travel during certain seasons is not for everyone. And that is perfectly okay! Being a stay at home mom is not for every mom and that’s is also okay! Working a 40+ hour job is not for everyone and graduating a 4 year college might not be fore everyone either, but guess what?? THAT IS ALL OKAY!

You see, Chance and I are able to make it work. We have found a system that helps his time away become more bearable. We text like we used to when we were first dating. You know those cute little morning texts you’d always wake up to and it would just make your day? 🙂 We facetime, we talk on the phone and we send pictures of what we did that day. (At least we try to 😋) Though we are miles & miles apart from each other we still choose to be together as much as possible.

Marriage isn’t just about sacrifice though. It is FULL of adventure, fun, wonder, love, joy, encouragement, motivation, pleasure and so much more. But you cannot have any of those things if you are not willing to sacrifice. And that can be anything. From giving up your Netflix time in order to talk with your spouse, to choosing to work a decent 9-5 so you can get your own place. 

Marriage is selfless.

As each day goes by that Chance is not here, I am reminded of the sacrifice he is willing to make for our family. I am blessed by his act of selflessnes. I am thankful for his servants heart. And I am utterly joyful to know that God gifted me with such a devoted, loyal and humble man I get to call my husband.

“Love is large and incredibly patient. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its own importance. Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (TPT)

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