|AGAPE| The highest form of love. The love of God for man and of man for God.
I think the word love has been totally overplayed, watered down and in a sense transformed into what we think it is. The word itself no longer holds the value it once did in the world we live in today. The word love has become something so cliché that many of us fall for anything that makes us feel warm and fuzzy inside. But love is so much more than that. Love is a feeling, an action, it is an emotion. Some would say that love is an attachment to someone or something. An interest, pleasure or deep affection. The list can go on and on. But what is love really? I know it can mean multiple things for all types of different people. For me though, love is sacrifice. Love is selfless. Love is pain. Love is joyful. Love is endless. Love is enduring. Love is perseverance. Love is heartache. Love is always standing in the gap. Love is and will always be Jesus. He is the only one who can love fully and completely. His love is impenetrable, it has no weak points! We have become so adapted to a human like love that we forget what it feels like to be loved by Jesus.
We allow ourselves to settle for what we think we deserve instead of allowing ourselves to be loved the way God intended. It is hard for us to comprehend a love that supersedes the happiness we may feel when we are around someone we truly do love. It is hard because unless you have experienced the love of Jesus before you have no idea what that love feels like. I mean if you have never tasted elote (corn) off the cart covered in mayo, butter, parmesan cheese and a little Valentino than you can’t possibly know that is your favorite snack until you try it! Hahaha!! But seriously, if we have never felt something before than how could we know how it makes us feel? The love that Jesus offers is unlike any love we can find in another person. Trust me. I have had my fair shares of “I love you’s” and “I’m in love with you” when I was younger. And they have all failed me. They left me feeling unworthy, angry, depressed, belittled and BROKEN. Do I regret being so free with who I chose to give my love to? No. Do I wish I could get all those pieces of me I gave away back from those people? Nope. Because realizing that I loved wrong and was loved wrong allowed me to be loved and to love right. If I never experienced the wrong way to be loved than I would have never experienced God’s way to love. I would still be allowing people to take advantage of me and disrespect me and mistreat me. But that is not who I am anymore.
Because the love of Jesus fought for me when I was in those relationships I am here. His love NEVER GAVE UP. Jesus NEVER lost a single ounce of love for me. He NEVER left me and told me “I’m done.” Or “You just aren’t pretty enough.” NOT ONCE did Jesus tell me He didn’t love me anymore. I’ve heard it said before “When you love someone you would do anything for them” and that is true. BUT! The same goes for the person you are willing to do anything for. Are they willing to be completely selfless and put your needs above their own? Is that guy willing to stop any bad habits he might have just for you? Is he willing to meet you half way but ready to go the full length on y our behalf? Is he willing to get help if he can’t stop watching things he shouldn’t? Is the guy you are so deeply in love with ready to give his life for yours without any hesitation? Ask yourself that. Ask yourself if this guy that claims to love you love the Lord more??? Because if any of these are a “no” especially the last question, then it should be a “no” for you too! As a daughter of the Most High, we deserve the best. He wants us to have the very best. So, if you feel unloved right now, wherever you are, take a step back. Really think about the word love and how it is lived out in your life. If it is not the kind of love that resembles the love that Jesus offers than it’s not love. Hear me out, being loved by another human can never come close to the way Jesus loves us but it can probably come a heck of a lot closer than the love we choose to settle for.
I am so thankful for the love God has shown me through my husband. After being in relationship after relationship I thought that I could never be loved. To be honest I didn’t really know “true love” until I met Chance. The Lord knew what kind of man I needed and the kind of love he needed to show me in order for me to experience love greater than my past. He knows the kind of love you need and the type of guy who can show you that. So, trust God when He tells you to wait. It’s okay to get upset and be frustrated some days because you might be the third wheel. But know this, God only wants the best for you. He only has the best for you. So instead of settling and giving in to what you think is love, let God love you the way you deserve and save yourself for your husband. I promise you it’s worth the wait.
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